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Self love is the best kind of love you can give yourself! Wake up people before it’s too late and you become unrecognizable.

“You have to go through a bunch of bad apples to get to a good one”

I recently heard someone say, “you have to go through a bunch of bad apples to get to a good one”. Boy that’s a mouthful right there! And I couldn’t agree more! When we go to the grocery store as we stand in the produce section, we don’t pick up the first apple we see. Nah, we stand there for several minutes picking through them to find the best one. It’s like a scavenger hunt up in there. Is it red enough, is it hard enough, how does it smells, is it bruised, blah blah blah. We do the same thing when it comes to choosing people to date and finding the ONE. You have to go through a few bad apples to get to the right one.  

Have you looked over your life and thanked God for bringing you out of some awkward, dangerous, and dark places in past relationships? I know I have. I have been in relationships that were verbally, mentally, and physically abusive. I was in a relationship with someone that was mentally unstable, and I thought I could fix them, but I couldn’t.

None of us like going from one relationship to another. It’s exhausting. You get tired of going through failed relationship after failed relationship. You feel like others will judge you and think you’re the cause of people coming and going. The anxiety and stress that comes from the thought of starting over is overwhelming. Getting to know someone takes time and there is nothing worse than wasting time on a person that turns out to be everything you don’t want.

It doesn’t matter how many relationships you have been in that didn’t work out. Don’t you dare give up. Your person is waiting to discover you. Your person is actively looking for you. Giving up on love is not an option because it’s out there! People come and go. There’s reasons why people come into our lives. Some come to teach us a lesson. Some come for a season leaving valuable nuggets behind that reminds you of what you want and don’t want, what you can and can’t tolerate. Acknowledge those bad apples that turned into failed relationships because now you’re able to position yourself for the right one!

Remember the shiniest apple is not always the best one. It doesn’t have to be perfect just imperfectly perfect for you. Your person may not look like or act like you envisioned. Let me say this, that ONE will be everything you need and never knew you wanted! So, the next time you’re in the market shopping for the next apple, remember a little dint or bruise never hurt anybody and it doesn’t have to shine the brightest. Especially, when it’s what’s on the inside that matters most.

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Women and Men this is so accurate. Joyce Meyers never disappoints. You may not like her but her message is always on point.

Yawl better stop looking for something more when everything you need is right in front of you. The grass ain’t always greener on the other side. Be careful of what you give up for what you might get! It’s true that women are more “extra”than men. Listen to the message below, you’ll understand why.

I think Tamar Braxton summed it up perfectly. I’m so grateful and indebted to my ancestors for paving the way for me and mine.

June 19, 1865 is a day widely remembered. It is a federal holiday commemorating the emancipation of enslaved African Americans.

157 years ago it’s said that we were set free. But were we? Today we still fight on a consistent basis, daily. A step forward is progress made no matter how small it may seem.

Free is never giving up. Free is pushing forward when it seems unbearable. Free is believing that your God will carry you through. Free is having the courage to seek more of what was promised to you.

Today and everyday be PROUD of being BLACK. Be PROUD by embracing who you are and your sexuality! Be PROUD of our ancestors who fought and paved the way for us.

I AM Takisha Fowlkes and I am PROUD TO BE BLACK. ✊🏽
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Hey You!

Thanks for stopping by. Whatever brought you here, I’m glad it did. You being here is the first step to stepping outside the box that you have been trapped in for so long. Listen, I know exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes. You name it, I’ve been through it. After countless tears, sleepless nights, being disgusted with my situation and feeling like I just couldn’t do anything about it, I made it my mission to FIND A SOLUTION! And guess what? I DID and I want to share it with you so that you can break FREE and experience the peace you desperately seek!

I know there is no ONE situation the same that’s why I believe in meeting people where they are and helping them along the way. Your experience with me will be tailored to meet your specific need. It’s my mission to help you restore what has been lost, help you learn how to love yourself and find healing. It’s ok to feel like you don’t have it together and feel like your life is spiraling out of control but what is not ok is you staying there and doing nothing about it. I’m here to help you with that.

Let me tell you a quick story. My story! I am a divorced mother of 3 beautiful children. Has it always been easy? Heck naw! I married my high school sweetheart and after 7 years found out he had been having feelings towards the same sex for a very long time. I don’t judge people for their sexual preference because I believe that to be an independent choice and who are we to judge how others live their life? We have no right. However, for me I felt betrayed and I felt like I was a cover up. Seven years of my life and three babies later and this happens? He cheated on me every year we were married but this was the straw that broke the camels back. It wasn’t a woman this time, it was a man. I would never have known had it not been for God revealing it to me in his timing.

After I came to from having an outer body experience which lasted for quite some time I spoke to my husband and told him I wanted a divorce. Upon telling him this he decides to add more chaos to the midst of this already devastating life changing news. He took a bunch load of pills which caused me to worry even more. Here I was 27 years old with 3 small children and an unstable husband. I had to keep it together for my children and him, right? Visiting my husband in a psychiatric hospital my life flashed before me yet again. Since I was his wife, the hospital asked if I felt safe with him staying home by himself. Of course I said NO! His family thought I was the absolute worse for telling the doctor that. They felt I was the cause of what was happening, and they felt I should have understood all he was going through because HE was the victim of childhood trauma. This childhood trauma that was hidden from his wife of 7 years and the mother of his 3 children. But what about me? No one ever said I’m sorry Kisha you are going through this. How can I help you? Do you need to talk? How are you handling all this?

Fast forward, I gathered my thoughts which were a million per second of every day. I struggled to get through. I saw an opportunity to change my life, that of my children and my situation so I moved to Atlanta. Living there, I met a whole new devil at a different level. My aunt, who I had come to VA to take me back with her said I didn’t have to worry about anything. I could move in with with her until I could get on my feet. A fresh start. Little did I know this would be a nightmare. She would keep toilet paper, soap, dish detergent and other necessities from my children and me. She was bipolar. She never praised anything anyone did that was good. If you were down, she kicked you even more. I witnessed her belittling her children, the man she was with, and so much more. I was living in hell. No job, 3 states away from home, and limited resources. This was the same person that said she would help me through my situation so that I could start over while going through my divorce.

A few months later after being in Atlanta, the same aunt had a big disagreement with my biological father and decided to unleash fury on me even though I was not at her house at the time. I was out with a friend that I had met since being in Atlanta. I get phone calls after phone calls one day saying your aunt is delusional and evil, etc. I go home to my aunt’s residence, where I am staying, to find out she wants me out! Yes, you heard me. She wanted me gone. Kicked me out and it was no fault of mine! I have nowhere to go all because of a conversation filled with lies and confusion SHE caused.

Out in the streets with no where to go, the struggle was real yawl. I cried so many days and nights. I couldn’t eat. I had headaches every day. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. There was a family member that was very into the congregation that I reached out to that allowed me and my children to stay for a few weeks. I couldn’t stay longer than that because she had young boys and that was not permitted. So here I am trying to gather my thoughts together to come up with a plan but with limited time working against me. I didn’t know what I was going to do. A kid in her late 20tys with kids having to learn how to be a real adult real quick.

My mother talked to her sister (my aunt) and begged her to take me and my children back in until I could get on my feet. Talk about PRIDE you, guys! I had to suck it up for my children’s sake. I walked back into hell and had to pray my way through it for a few months until I received my tax refund check. That’s when I secured an apartment for my children and me.

This is only a part of my story, and I promise to share MORE with you. I just want you to know that I have been through, and I have come out on the other end with lessons learned, wisdom to share and a story to tell. By sharing my story with you and how I rose above all odds will help you face and conquer yours! Connect with me to start your process on the road to recovery!

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Hey Yal!

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Hey yawl!

You are invited to join me for an hour today at 6pm. I get lots of questions about who am I, what I do, people wanting to hear my story and more. The wait is over. I’m sharing my story and what motivated me to do what I do TODAY. So, set those alarm clocks for 6pm and I will see you inside! 😃

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When trouble comes knocking at your door it’s not the message that’s more important but it’s your actions that follow. If you have a good partner, you accept them, flaws and all. Their past mistakes should not dictate their future. Be the one that does the opposite of not putting your foot on their neck to hold them down. Lift them up by standing by their side. That’s what Tamela Mann did for her husband and her family. Strength she is. Courageous is she. Loving unconditionally, yes, she understood the assignment. THE MANN’S❤️