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Denial is declaring something to be untrue and refusing to believe the obvious.

Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something that we can see, hear, feel.

A conscious decision to refuse to believe painful situations exist.

Escaping unbearable feelings and thoughts associated with what’s real.

Resisting the process to see what is and what isn’t in our mind no matter how foggy our minds may be.

I urge you; I INSIST that you….

Stand up for yourself. Take your life back. Say no more foolishness and uncertainty. Enough Is Enough.

There are 3 types of denial:

Simple Denial– something is happening but refuses to see the obvious.

Dummy Downing Denial– acknowledging a situation but refusing to see the seriousness in it.

Shifting Denial– accepting the problem and its seriousness but blaming someone else for the emotions you feel from it.

How to deal with denial:

1. Take a step back to see a situation for what it is.

2. Talk to a professional or someone trustworthy that will be real and raw with you and help you recognize the difference between fact vs false hope.

3. Go in silence to process and gain insight and a new perspective.

4. Allow yourself to feel every emotion that’s come your way.

5. Be honest with yourself and others and accept the outcome.

Releasing the past to make way for the future means embracing being uncomfortable to become comfortable.

It means letting go of people that served a purpose but no longer do.

It means changing old habits to get a different result.

It means setting boundaries.

It means saying no.

It means hard decisions.

It means others will get upset, mad or angry because you are choosing to do something different.

It means ridicule.

It means persuasion.

It means stepping back to allow perspective and clarity to set in.

It means being silent so you can be spoken to.

It means thinking for yourself.

It means emotional balance.

It means healing.

It means acceptance.

It means recharging, resetting and regaining control.

It means acknowledging.

It means forgiveness.

It means self-purging to protect your mental state.

It means recognizing the importance of substance and letting go of what’s not.

It means shielding yourself from outside influences and negative charged magnets.

It means rest. It means peace. It means being alone until you’re ready to include others.

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Romance is a feeling of love for, or a strong attraction towards another person, and the courtship behaviors undertaken by an individual to express those overall feelings and resultant emotions.

Romantic gestures come in different forms and at different stages in relationships. It’s not a one size fits all. What looks like romance to one may not to another. Romance is not only an act of love it’s often viewed as a measure of one’s love. It’s an attraction, excitement and “woo” for a person and the relationship. Usually felt when you are in love with someone. Though not to be confused, love is commitment, affection, and devotion. Romance is superficial. If both are present the relationship will flourish.

Being romantic means surprises, affection, giving of time, listening, gift giving, expressing yourself, being thoughtful, etc. Romance is acts of kindness, quality time, in public and behind closed doors, words of affirmation, and shown in touch. It’s all five love languages and doing things that makes someone happy.

Why do we romance and love romance? It’s the possibility of what can become of the relationship and the illustration of what an individual or both wants it to be. It’s the feeling of happiness and pure satisfaction. With happiness comes less stress, peace, security, stability, comfort, trust, joy, and an adrenaline rush. For some it can be unmeasurable, and unexplainable.

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I hear, he isn’t romantic, or she doesn’t like the romantic stuff I do for her or that I’d like to do romantic things, but he/she doesn’t allow me the chance to do it how I want and when I want. I also hear they show it, but it’s overlooked making a person say, “why bother”. To that I say, stop forcing or rushing it. Stop internalizing and sit down and have a conversation.

It’s my belief that everyone possesses a romantic side. However, it’s shown usually to the person they feel is worthy. Being in a relationship for years and not being shown romance, feeling romantic gestures signifies you may be in the wrong relationship. Please understand not everyone will be in a relationship with the one they are intended to be with.

Romancing your significant other is a part of dating, courting. It is still present in engagements, marriages and marriages that have been for years. Romance doesn’t stop just because you have conquered the prize; him or her. It’s saying without words, I’m just as much into you now then I was the first day I laid eyes on you.

Romance + Love is having an eagerness to care, protect, respect, an urgency to want to do life with, shielding one from harm, striving to be all they can be for another is appreciation, affection, and admiration at its peak. This is when a person lets down their guard to profess their love and devotion to another. It’s effortlessly executed. It will not be one-sided but rather both will focus on bringing peace, enjoyment, and fulfillment to each other. And in turn, the relationship will be mind-blowing!

Key Take Away:

Understanding your love language and the love language of your partner

People show their love for you based on their love language, not necessarily yours

Understanding your partners love language will serve you an advantage to having, bringing back and keeping the romance alive in your relationship

It may take some longer than others to show affection but if love is present and the value is seen it will be shown, effortlessly

Romance and love together can be monumental

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Yes, I know when we see something we want to say something. I’m here to tell you that in some cases this will end your friendships in the blink of an eye.

It’s almost instinctively to let a friend know if someone is doing them wrong. You think that you are saving them from a headache or a heartache. Truly I say to you, it does look and seem that way if the intentions are pure but majority of the time it is not perceived as such.

You feel you are obligated to them. You feel you are being disloyal if you don’t tell them what they don’t know. You feel if they find out you knew and didn’t tell them that they would question your friendship, trust, and loyalty. I’m telling you that they gone question your position either way if you choose to tell them or not.

Everything in you wants to shield them. You don’t want them treated badly. But it’s imperative that you stay in your lane and mind your business. The reason being is because it usually doesn’t turn out the way it’s intended to. Although, intentions are good, people usually stay together because they are not ready to deal with the situation, they aren’t strong enough to leave or their situation isn’t set up for them to easily escape, they aren’t confident enough and do not know their worth. So, to avoid losing a friend, being rumored that you’re jealous, envious of what they have, coming in between their relationship or marriage, you full of drama and more when all you’re doing is “sometimes” truly helping a friend avoid heartache, it’s best to leave it alone and mind yours. They question your intentions and motives.

What do you do with the knowledge you have?

Simple.

*Process it because you can’t unsee something you have seen. You can’t unhear what you’ve heard.

*Don’t give your two cents, just walk away. Digest it. Pray about it and for them.

*Let it go. Keep it moving. Understand its not your problem. Let people deal with their own problems unless your advice, suggestions or opinions are asked for. AND even then, you can still choose to mind your business for the sake of keeping friendships, tension down and unwarranted stress out of your life.

Don’t make your life more complicated than it already is or have to be by adding someone else’s problems to yours. Simplicity is the way to go.

When in a relationship, engagement, or marriage it’s best to come to a common ground to solve your affairs together, as a couple, as partners, as husband and wife. Professional couples or marriage counseling, coaching or individual counsel are also helpful options to find resolutions.

It should never be an option to discuss your private household problems to family, friends or take to social media. Doing so only damages your relationship further and it will cause a wider wedge between both you and your significant other.

Taking to social media is a way of making yourself feel validated for your actions and or behavior. It’s your way of seeing how many people you can get on your side, to see your point, agree with you, seal the envelope to the message you are trying to convey by telling you, you had a right to do what you did or say what you said. This makes you feel better about the situation. This puts you on top the situation like you are in control. It gives you an extra boost. Sort of like leverage that you can throw in his/her face. This is not ok. It’s never ok to shame someone else, degrade them or put them under scrutiny. This is not only hurtful, but you are causing damage to the one you claim to love that you may not be able to bounce back from.

The same goes for family and friends. Keep your business to yourself because once it’s out there you can’t take it back. Family and friends become protective of you and wellbeing. At least that’s what they think they are doing in that moment and going forward. They want the best for you. Who could blame them, right? Wrong. Your inability to keep your business private allows them to feel entitled to be in your business every chance they get. You painted a distorted picture of your loved one to your family and friends and they in turn kick against them and start not to like them, they began to distance themselves and not want to be around them or worse, they don’t want you to be around them with your partner. It causes the divide to become bigger. To avoid this “KEEP YOUR BUSINESS PRIVATE”.

Once damage is done, its hard for you to make amends, make things go back to normal, or eliminate tension all together. Now you must put on your big girl drawls or big boy boxers and praise your loved one to your family and friends every chance you get so that they can over time learn to love them as you do and see them in a different light other than the one you portrayed them in. Oh, at first, they are not going to want to hear anything you have to say. But rest assure, if you set healthy boundaries and make them known to family and friends, have the difficult and uncomfortable conversations to set things straight and in order, they will eventually ease up. Then you have to apologize to your significant other for making them look bad and degrading them on social media, to family and friends. All the while, its eating you alive inside that you hurt them in a way you couldn’t understand. Your impulsive actions, unwarranted behavior will cause you more problems than the ones you feel you currently have.

How to avoid these mistakes?

1. Keep your business inside your home. Find resolution together without involving others.

2. Find ways to talk to your partner about the things that are bothering you. Understand that every day can’t be a good day. Recognize your partner is human and mistakes are inevitable.

3. Don’t talk to outside influencers about your relationship, or marital affairs. Keep in mind misery loves company so if a person is reluctant to want to know the bad stuff and give you advice that will not yield positive resolutions, it would serve you well to deal with those people at a distance and with less information as possible.

Not everyone wants to see you happy and living your best life, especially, if its with someone you have found love with. Majority of times if bad advice is given, it’s probably because the person that’s giving it, is envious, jealous, or upset that they don’t have a portion of what you have. Be mindful of the devils that are around the corner wrapped up in sheep like clothing.

Control your impulses. Everything bad eventually changes for good. Don’t give people something to talk about. Only give them the good. That’s all they get to know if you choose to give them that.

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Why?

It will not be authentic

It will not be executed properly

It will cause a divide

It will cause tension

It will shift onto you as if you are the problem

It will look as though you did something wrong all the while, you were merely standing on your principles, the standards you have set for yourself and the value you know you to be

It will cause your peace to be interrupted

Recognize the signs and believe people when they show you who they are. Stop making excuses. Stop allowing them to feed you excuses of the way they act or treat you.

If it, or they, do not bring about peace, positive change and exhibit growth and love, you’ve got to be strong enough to let it or them go.

Why put yourself through pain, stress, and doubt if you don’t have to?

After a while when a person loses you and know you mean business and they still don’t do right by you, you know what time it is.

There’s no time for questions. There’s no time for waiting. There’s no more time to give them so they can figure it out or deal with it in their own way. They’ve had enough time to do that when they lost you the first time, or the second, or the third.

End the cycle.

Go silent. Not a word. It’s going to be hard before it becomes easy. When it becomes easy, don’t look back. Keep pushing forward.

There is someone, other than that one, that will see, know and understand the value in you.

It’s time for you to see it and walk in it.
Believe what you see, feel and know in yourself.
Stand on it if that means you stand alone!

The Queen has left the Throne. She has ascended at the age of 96 from her ancestral home. Queen Elizabeth reminded me so much of my late great grandmother. She also died at the age of 96. A kind spirit and warm heart strong woman who lead many. I remember taking a keen liking to the Queen early on and still today, almost 40, followed her until her death. Queen Elizabeth was a person of great admiration and respect. She was soft hearted to all. She lived a life and ruled a country with dignity and grace. A person never to be duplicated but imitated with great effort. She reigned for 70 years, the longest in British history. She did it gracefully and she was loved by many. It is with deepest sympathy as I write this, along with a broken heart, that I pray for strength, healing and comfort for her family. I’m sure it goes without saying that they were trained and prepared for this day but a big adjustment nonetheless. She was the glue and it will be interesting to watch the rest of the family keep it together as well as she did. Queen Elizabeth had a huge responsibility and she executed it beautifully. I know I’m not alone when I say I will greatly miss seeing her grace us with her presence on national tv. She was a thrill to watch, how she dressed, what colors she would wear, her facial expressions, her smile that would ignite a light in your heart, etc. She was a Queen in every since of the word right down to the letters. Rest in Heaven Queen Elizabeth! We thought the world of you! ❤

My Great-Grandmother “Sweetie”

Perception can be defined as the way an individual thinks. It can be misleading. It can be off track or broken. It can become clouded. It can hold you captive from living a life of pure freedom.

To see clearly is to think differently. Reprogramming your mind to see good instead of bad (positive instead of negative) is something very few are willing to challenge themselves to do.

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