Shout out to all the fly women who don’t need to dress half naked to get a man’s attention.
Truth be told a man wants a classy lady….
A lady that respects herself and values her outward appearance.
A lady that knows her body is her temple and will not defile it to prove she has what he wants.
A lady that will not bring shame upon herself or him.
A lady with character, grace and poise. 
Keep shinning sis with your cover-up wear because you are fyyyyaah!!
AND you’re WINNING!!
Your apology needs to be as loud as your disrespect was 
APOLOGY 1-ON-1
Sometimes its not enough to say “I’m sorry”. Half the time people don’t mean it. They say it because it’s what you NEED to hear or what they FEEL they need to say to get you to snap back in place to forgive them so they can get on with their agenda.
You will know when you receive a sincere apology. A simple “I apologize” is NOT a sincere apology. I was once told saying “I’m sorry” makes that person feel like a sorry person, like they are admitting to fault which makes them look like a bad person. I also heard someone say “I apologize” isn’t saying I’m sorry for hurting you but simply acknowledging I’m aware what I said offended you because you’re saying something to me about it.
If a person does not come to you on their own free will to say they are sorry and mean it you do not have to accept it. Matter fact if someone wrongs you it would be wise to understand they are not capable of doing right by you and not willing to take accountability for their actions (right now).
Recognize & truly understand you don’t NEED an apology from others if you are secure within yourself.
It’s very important you know the difference of a sincere apology vs one that’s not, especially if you’re seeking an apology from someone. Listen to what people say and don’t be quick to accept something because you want to hear it.
Not all people will operate as you do. Not all people see issues with what they do. If the apology doesn’t calm the storm in your spirit, there’s a reason.
I have seen time after time ladies who are in long term relationships with men complain about their men not supporting them, not helping them with bills and so forth. It grinds my gears to hear this. Ladies don’t expect a man to take care of you, YOU take care of you. If a man wants to do anything for you financially it’s a PLUS. Consider yourself BLESSED. Especially if you are NOT married. And even if you are MARRIED it is not a man’s sole responsibility to take care of you. The two of you become ONE FLESH therefore taking care of EACHOTHER.
Don’t get it twist now it’s not only women that have this viewpoint that a man is supposed to take care of her, but men have also gotten just as worse. 
I associate this kind of behavior to the mindset of some people as if someone owes you something. They do not. 
We all work hard for our money and all these lavish livings are uncalled for. You don’t need that expensive LV purse, you don’t need to go to those $5,000 ticket concerts, you don’t need the latest Harley Davison bike, and you don’t need that 10-bedroom home for everyone in your family to stay in when they visit when it’s just YOU, or you and HIM or Her.
Let’s stop putting on a show and for Christ’s sake stop making others see you as the clown in your own circus. 
Dare to do better.
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God said it best….“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”.
We can easily see and point out the flaws of others, but have the hardest time seeing our own. If your stumbling causes you to lose relationship after relationship because of your need to be right, and you find yourself alone, chances are it’s not everyone else; it’s a strong indication it’s you. We have to start looking in the mirror vs out the window. Clean up our backyard before uttering words against someone else’s backyard.
Because the truth is, we all have parts of our lives we are not proud of, ashamed of, and would like to cover up and keep hidden from the naked eye. But in revealing those things and becoming aware of them, we can free ourselves by changing our thoughts, behaviors, actions, and reactions to things that do not serve us well.
It’s truly sad to see people who honestly believe they are exempt from doing wrong, with no fault of their own. But what’s more disturbing is believing what you do to others won’t come back to you tenfold. Karma is real. And I’m a living witness that when it’s your turn, things will unfold and overwhelm you, leaving you completely helpless. But there is help, and there is hope. That hope is the only hope that will pick you up and sustain you. God. Turning to God, letting Him direct you, vs. you controlling the situation, thinking God made you above Him, will lead you down a destructive path every time.
Don’t go through life looking down on others when you aren’t up yourself. If you can relate, that means this is real in your life, but rest assure your resilience to rise above it and overcome will be one hell of a cause to celebrate on the other side of where you are now. So let’s get to work! Self-reflection, inner work, and accountability are the recipes for personal success.
🗣️Control Your Temper 👈🏽
WHY?
🔸Things are not always as bad as they seem.
🔹Your emotions aren’t constant, they change from one minute to the next and so does your perspective of it.
🔺What offends you now probably won’t offend you later.
🔻There’s a lesson in every chaotic situation.
It’s no use getting hype over something that won’t affect you hours from now because after you’ve calmed down and processed the situation you’ll look at it differently.
Operating in an 👉🏽angry😤 state takes away time ⏰ you don’t have to waste and energy you don’t have to give.
Look BEYOND what provokes you paying no attention to petty stuff.
Get proactive in ignoring narrow-minded people whose sole mission is to take you out of character.
Are you in a vicious cycle? 👈🏽🤷🏽♀️
🎯 Do you know what that means?
😔Have you been struggling with leaving a relationship or marriage?
😩Have you left only to find yourself right back in the situation a few weeks or months later?
😒You’re stressed, you’re being disrespected and tolerating more than what’s necessary for no reason at all 🤨
Yet you still remain stuck in a situation you know serves no purpose ❌
You 🫵🏽 question why you still stay because you deserve better ✅
Venting seems to help so you talk to those who will listen, they share advice but somehow you’re still confused 🫤
Why? 🤷🏽♀️
You’re confused because you refuse to see and accept the obvious. You look for validation from others but don’t realize everything you need to make a sound decision is within you!
You know what needs to be done but something’s holding you back from moving forward.
🤔What is it⁉️
😯👉🏽Your inability to see truth, accept it and focus on what matters most (you). You’re too busy looking in the past at the good times, holding on to the possibilities of what could be but (isn’t). You’re holding on to 📌familiarity. What you’ve allowed in your life for so long has become normal until you don’t know anything different.
It’s time to let it go❗️ if it serves no purpose. Life’s too short and time is too precious to be participating in someone else’s circus. Let them be clowns 🤡 all on their own.
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