Author: r3coachingelevated

When you love someone you talk through things. You talk, you listen, you’re patient, you’re understanding, considerate and most of all respectful. There’s so much you can and should be when opportunities come which requires you to communicate you are present.

Obstacles will emerge, they are significant and sometimes warrant a hard conversation. Simply because individuals do things differently when they are single and their perception of it is valid during that time.

However, what many fail to realize is when you step out of your singleness and into a relationship what you think is ok in your singleness is not when you’re involved with another.

You simply can not continue doing the same things. Your actions, response and willingness to walk across a slippery floor to the other side is key components to leaving one part of your life and entering another.

Be prepared for what it takes and know what it means to date and be dated. Your transition is key because people are paying attention. Functioning in relationships require you to respect the other persons boundaries, change your interaction with others and have a level of openness you did not have.

Stop being silent about the things you need to be loud about

What’s life without mistakes?? They are learning tools to give you wisdom so you know not to repeat the patterns and travel the roads you once did. These nuggets are golden when sharing with others when helping them.

I’ve learned a lot this past year. I’ve learned to be honest in all things because it sets you free. I’ve learned to distance myself from people I know cause me to step outside of my character. I’ve learned to stay minding my business and not the business of others. I’ve learned to own my mistakes and right them on all accounts. I’ve also learned to pray incisively to obtain the answers I need.

I’ve learned a lot about Kisha too. I’ve learned the love I have for myself will be felt by me and seen by others. I’ve learned my opinion of myself is the only opinion that matters. I’ve learned what I want and need is my responsibility alone and not of someone else. Self-awareness is a feeling indescribable.

I encourage you to embrace your mistakes, own up to them and change your direction. Also embrace and love who you are no matter what others think of you

Do you ever wonder who your true friends are?

Are you aware of how many true friends you have?

True friends are a dime a dozen. If you have many people claiming to be your friend, I’d be on the side of caution. Your definition of friend likely will be different.

Friends are people who have been with you for years, been with you through your highs and your lows, no matter what you’ve done they didn’t leave your side. These friends don’t judge you but love you through your mess even when you come with stress. These friends have been right by your side and haven’t caused you to question their loyalty.

There’s a lot they do to add to your life like…..

Help take your mind off the hard stuff

Talk you through your confusion

Be silent and listen with the intent to understand

Offer feedback and advice when asked

What they are not is a sometime friend. They aren’t only around when things are good and disappear when things are bad.

Consider yourself blessed if you have an average of 5.

Those 5 are the committed, the real-straightforward, the God-fearing, the impartial, and the inspiration.

1. The friend who will be there no matter what. The person you can call on any time of night, talk to any time of day. The forever available.

2. The friend who will keep it real. This person doesn’t care if you get upset and all in your feelings. They love you enough to tell you about yourself and tell you when you’re wrong. No beating around the bush.

3. The spiritual friend that will make you see the importance of putting God first in all you do. This person will remind you of the goodness of God and what He has done and still doing for you.

4. The friend that’s going to have your back regardless of the situation. This person, no matter how many times you mess up will not judge you because of your mistakes, failures, or imperfections. They are your ride or die. They will pick you up and brush you off when you fall.

5. The friend that will motivate, encourage, uplift, and inspire you to want to be a better you. This person is grounded, stable and a constant figure you look up to and respect.

Shout out to all the fly women who don’t need to dress half naked to get a man’s attention.

Truth be told a man wants a classy lady….

A lady that respects herself and values her outward appearance.

A lady that knows her body is her temple and will not defile it to prove she has what he wants.

A lady that will not bring shame upon herself or him.

A lady with character, grace and poise.

Keep shinning sis with your cover-up wear because you are fyyyyaah!!AND you’re WINNING!!

Your apology needs to be as loud as your disrespect was

APOLOGY 1-ON-1

Sometimes its not enough to say “I’m sorry”. Half the time people don’t mean it. They say it because it’s what you NEED to hear or what they FEEL they need to say to get you to snap back in place to forgive them so they can get on with their agenda.

You will know when you receive a sincere apology. A simple “I apologize” is NOT a sincere apology. I was once told saying “I’m sorry” makes that person feel like a sorry person, like they are admitting to fault which makes them look like a bad person. I also heard someone say “I apologize” isn’t saying I’m sorry for hurting you but simply acknowledging I’m aware what I said offended you because you’re saying something to me about it.

If a person does not come to you on their own free will to say they are sorry and mean it you do not have to accept it. Matter fact if someone wrongs you it would be wise to understand they are not capable of doing right by you and not willing to take accountability for their actions (right now).

Recognize & truly understand you don’t NEED an apology from others if you are secure within yourself.

It’s very important you know the difference of a sincere apology vs one that’s not, especially if you’re seeking an apology from someone. Listen to what people say and don’t be quick to accept something because you want to hear it.

Not all people will operate as you do. Not all people see issues with what they do. If the apology doesn’t calm the storm in your spirit, there’s a reason.

I have seen time after time ladies who are in long term relationships with men complain about their men not supporting them, not helping them with bills and so forth. It grinds my gears to hear this. Ladies don’t expect a man to take care of you, YOU take care of you. If a man wants to do anything for you financially it’s a PLUS. Consider yourself BLESSED. Especially if you are NOT married. And even if you are MARRIED it is not a man’s sole responsibility to take care of you. The two of you become ONE FLESH therefore taking care of EACHOTHER.

Don’t get it twist now it’s not only women that have this viewpoint that a man is supposed to take care of her, but men have also gotten just as worse.

I associate this kind of behavior to the mindset of some people as if someone owes you something. They do not.

We all work hard for our money and all these lavish livings are uncalled for. You don’t need that expensive LV purse, you don’t need to go to those $5,000 ticket concerts, you don’t need the latest Harley Davison bike, and you don’t need that 10-bedroom home for everyone in your family to stay in when they visit when it’s just YOU, or you and HIM or Her.

Let’s stop putting on a show and for Christ’s sake stop making others see you as the clown in your own circus.

Dare to do better.

I’ve gotten questions asking who am I, what do I offer and how can I help you. Here’s the answers to your questions.

This was a video I recorded the beginning of this year. It still holds true today. Happiness makes the world go round! Get you some today and share it. Happiness all 2023!!

With just 100 days left in this year it’s never too late to start this trend!

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God said it best….“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”.

We can easily see and point out the flaws of others, but have the hardest time seeing our own. If your stumbling causes you to lose relationship after relationship because of your need to be right, and you find yourself alone, chances are it’s not everyone else; it’s a strong indication it’s you. We have to start looking in the mirror vs out the window. Clean up our backyard before uttering words against someone else’s backyard.

Because the truth is, we all have parts of our lives we are not proud of, ashamed of, and would like to cover up and keep hidden from the naked eye. But in revealing those things and becoming aware of them, we can free ourselves by changing our thoughts, behaviors, actions, and reactions to things that do not serve us well.

It’s truly sad to see people who honestly believe they are exempt from doing wrong, with no fault of their own. But what’s more disturbing is believing what you do to others won’t come back to you tenfold. Karma is real. And I’m a living witness that when it’s your turn, things will unfold and overwhelm you, leaving you completely helpless. But there is help, and there is hope. That hope is the only hope that will pick you up and sustain you. God. Turning to God, letting Him direct you, vs. you controlling the situation, thinking God made you above Him, will lead you down a destructive path every time.

Don’t go through life looking down on others when you aren’t up yourself. If you can relate, that means this is real in your life, but rest assure your resilience to rise above it and overcome will be one hell of a cause to celebrate on the other side of where you are now. So let’s get to work! Self-reflection, inner work, and accountability are the recipes for personal success.