Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
This is such a great question. I believe all of us could use some different approaches on this topic. As a coach I’ve been noticing that I give the best advice, which has proven to be highly effective for others. The thing is I don’t take my own advice. Why? I have no idea but I’ve started changing that.
What I do to cope with negative feelings is to first acknowledge them. Become aware that I am aware of them. Next I allow myself to “feel” them and sit in them for only a short time to process and understand why they affect me, why I was triggered, what underlying issues maybe causing me to be triggered at the level they do. Then I pray, read my Bible and leave it there. Sometimes I even journal because my lived experiences, my coping skills, and my resilience to press forward will be made available to those needing that extra push and guidance in book form or online training sessions.
Next I get out! I get out of the house and intentionally set “spa” days for myself, doing what brings me most comfort and peace whether that be shopping, a nice meal, hair, nails, gathering with trusted friends, scheduling my own therapy session just to talk about what’s bothering me because it truly helps when someone is there to listen and not pass judgement. I also like to rest and watch movies or listen to music. Certain types of music put me in a really great head space and my mood is heightened. There’s plenty ways of dealing with stress but these are some of mine. Hope they help you reach your inner peace and comfort.
Oh and one more thing. EFT tapping, Mindfulness meditation, and role play with a trusted friend works wonders!
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