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Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

This is such a great question. I believe all of us could use some different approaches on this topic. As a coach I’ve been noticing that I give the best advice, which has proven to be highly effective for others. The thing is I don’t take my own advice. Why? I have no idea but I’ve started changing that.

What I do to cope with negative feelings is to first acknowledge them. Become aware that I am aware of them. Next I allow myself to “feel” them and sit in them for only a short time to process and understand why they affect me, why I was triggered, what underlying issues maybe causing me to be triggered at the level they do. Then I pray, read my Bible and leave it there. Sometimes I even journal because my lived experiences, my coping skills, and my resilience to press forward will be made available to those needing that extra push and guidance in book form or online training sessions.

Next I get out! I get out of the house and intentionally set “spa” days for myself, doing what brings me most comfort and peace whether that be shopping, a nice meal, hair, nails, gathering with trusted friends, scheduling my own therapy session just to talk about what’s bothering me because it truly helps when someone is there to listen and not pass judgement. I also like to rest and watch movies or listen to music. Certain types of music put me in a really great head space and my mood is heightened. There’s plenty ways of dealing with stress but these are some of mine. Hope they help you reach your inner peace and comfort.

Oh and one more thing. EFT tapping, Mindfulness meditation, and role play with a trusted friend works wonders!

I’m heading straight to “Rodeo Drive Baby”. I’m going shopping at every store “Vivian” went to in Pretty Woman.

You’re writing your autobiography. What’s your opening sentence?

Hold on tight, I’m about to take you through a journey you’ll never forget.

If I could choose anyone to walk in the shoes of for just one day, it would be Jesus.

Not to elevate myself. But to understand Him, the world, the people in it and myself.

How incredible would it be to see the world through eyes that are all-knowing? To fully grasp the different mindsets of people walking this earth, their fears, their motives, their wounds, their pride, their love. To be completely aware of what’s expected of us and to see, up close, the beauty of living life His way.

I would want to see the magnitude of the mess our nation is facing and whether redemption or ruin is ahead. I would want to understand the intricacies of our Lord and Savior, how He remains compassionate despite our sins and our constant resistance to His will.

I’d want to understand how we are wired mentally and emotionally. What limits us? Why don’t we use the full capacity of our minds? What holds humanity back from becoming what we were created to be?

If only for a day, I would want to see what He sees, to know what He knows, not for power, but for perspective.

Because maybe if we truly saw what He sees, we would live differently. Just my thought. Share yours.

Have you ever performed on stage or given a speech?

Absolutely I have. At first I thought it was the most terrifying task. Like, how dare someone ask me to get in front of a room full of people and speak with out asking me if this was something I wanted or felt comfortable doing.

However, that initial thought dissipated about 5 minutes in when I looked out in the crowd and saw them engaging, smiling, and cheering me on.

So guess what! As a communications major I have conquered the fear of speaking but who are we fooling if we don’t admit we get nervous every time we have a presentation to give, an announcement to make, or something involving us being center of attention.

It’s my profession now and although it was intimidating I now own it with ease and excitement.

So if this is you and you can relate….deep breaths….breathe in….breathe out… hold your head up with confidence even if you’re nervous and uncomfortable don’t let them see you sweat! You’ve got this! 🙌🏾