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I have seen time after time ladies who are in long term relationships with men complain about their men not supporting them, not helping them with bills and so forth. It grinds my gears to hear this. Ladies don’t expect a man to take care of you, YOU take care of you. If a man wants to do anything for you financially it’s a PLUS. Consider yourself BLESSED. Especially if you are NOT married. And even if you are MARRIED it is not a man’s sole responsibility to take care of you. The two of you become ONE FLESH therefore taking care of EACHOTHER.

Don’t get it twist now it’s not only women that have this viewpoint that a man is supposed to take care of her, but men have also gotten just as worse.

I associate this kind of behavior to the mindset of some people as if someone owes you something. They do not.

We all work hard for our money and all these lavish livings are uncalled for. You don’t need that expensive LV purse, you don’t need to go to those $5,000 ticket concerts, you don’t need the latest Harley Davison bike, and you don’t need that 10-bedroom home for everyone in your family to stay in when they visit when it’s just YOU, or you and HIM or Her.

Let’s stop putting on a show and for Christ’s sake stop making others see you as the clown in your own circus.

Dare to do better.

I’ve gotten questions asking who am I, what do I offer and how can I help you. Here’s the answers to your questions.

This was a video I recorded the beginning of this year. It still holds true today. Happiness makes the world go round! Get you some today and share it. Happiness all 2023!!

With just 100 days left in this year it’s never too late to start this trend!

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God said it best….“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”.

We can easily see and point out the flaws of others, but have the hardest time seeing our own. If your stumbling causes you to lose relationship after relationship because of your need to be right, and you find yourself alone, chances are it’s not everyone else; it’s a strong indication it’s you. We have to start looking in the mirror vs out the window. Clean up our backyard before uttering words against someone else’s backyard.

Because the truth is, we all have parts of our lives we are not proud of, ashamed of, and would like to cover up and keep hidden from the naked eye. But in revealing those things and becoming aware of them, we can free ourselves by changing our thoughts, behaviors, actions, and reactions to things that do not serve us well.

It’s truly sad to see people who honestly believe they are exempt from doing wrong, with no fault of their own. But what’s more disturbing is believing what you do to others won’t come back to you tenfold. Karma is real. And I’m a living witness that when it’s your turn, things will unfold and overwhelm you, leaving you completely helpless. But there is help, and there is hope. That hope is the only hope that will pick you up and sustain you. God. Turning to God, letting Him direct you, vs. you controlling the situation, thinking God made you above Him, will lead you down a destructive path every time.

Don’t go through life looking down on others when you aren’t up yourself. If you can relate, that means this is real in your life, but rest assure your resilience to rise above it and overcome will be one hell of a cause to celebrate on the other side of where you are now. So let’s get to work! Self-reflection, inner work, and accountability are the recipes for personal success.

🗣️Control Your Temper 👈🏽

WHY?

🔸Things are not always as bad as they seem.
🔹Your emotions aren’t constant, they change from one minute to the next and so does your perspective of it.
🔺What offends you now probably won’t offend you later.
🔻There’s a lesson in every chaotic situation.

It’s no use getting hype over something that won’t affect you hours from now because after you’ve calmed down and processed the situation you’ll look at it differently.

Operating in an 👉🏽angry😤 state takes away time ⏰ you don’t have to waste and energy you don’t have to give.

Look BEYOND what provokes you paying no attention to petty stuff.

Get proactive in ignoring narrow-minded people whose sole mission is to take you out of character.

Are you in a vicious cycle? 👈🏽🤷🏽‍♀️

🎯 Do you know what that means?

😔Have you been struggling with leaving a relationship or marriage?

😩Have you left only to find yourself right back in the situation a few weeks or months later?

😒You’re stressed, you’re being disrespected and tolerating more than what’s necessary for no reason at all 🤨

Yet you still remain stuck in a situation you know serves no purpose ❌

You 🫵🏽 question why you still stay because you deserve better ✅

Venting seems to help so you talk to those who will listen, they share advice but somehow you’re still confused 🫤

Why? 🤷🏽‍♀️

You’re confused because you refuse to see and accept the obvious. You look for validation from others but don’t realize everything you need to make a sound decision is within you!

You know what needs to be done but something’s holding you back from moving forward.

🤔What is it⁉️

😯👉🏽Your inability to see truth, accept it and focus on what matters most (you). You’re too busy looking in the past at the good times, holding on to the possibilities of what could be but (isn’t). You’re holding on to 📌familiarity. What you’ve allowed in your life for so long has become normal until you don’t know anything different.

It’s time to let it go❗️ if it serves no purpose. Life’s too short and time is too precious to be participating in someone else’s circus. Let them be clowns 🤡 all on their own.

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Are you tired of the constant excuses? Excuses from people who seem to know what to say to get out of a tight jam. Smooth talkers/gift of gab? People that make excuses on a regular basis about things they need to change but don’t. The manipulators. Year after year no growth, no change or elevation in any area of their life. Same behavior, same mindset. The complacent. People who end up in sticky situations but somehow get out of them. Say they will change but only temporarily and sometimes not at all. Lucky ones. In a relationship with someone you’re constantly bumping heads with, arguing over things that won’t matter tomorrow or next week only to hear them say they’re sorry and they won’t do it again and a month later it’s more of the same. Liars.  Perhaps you’re tired of surrounding yourself with people that need to stop acting and reacting in the manner they do but tell you they know what they need to do but still don’t do it anyway. Deniers. Shift the heat off them by criticizing or using others as an example. Hypocrites.  

Have you come to a point where you no longer want to associate yourself with them? You don’t want to talk to them, be around them or continue any involvement? In some cases, it can easily be done and for others it can’t. You simply have no other option but to deal with them. So, you’re left with one option, find ways to handle it. So, what do you do? You become bold by speaking up and calling them out on their mess. You start to exercise silence and listen to the ignorance that comes out of their mouth. Thinking to yourself if they only knew how unintelligent they sound they would be quiet. You start to question if something is wrong with you for not seeing it sooner and for being caught up. This is for family members, past relationships and situationships.

What you’re experiencing is growth. You have outgrown that person and that situation. You’ve set healthy boundaries to protect you and you value yourself and your happiness. You realize you can’t expect much from people because they aren’t on the journey you’re on so therefore they don’t get it like you get it. The obvious is not obvious to them. They haven’t taken the blinders off yet. Still running around the same circle with no end expecting a different result. They are entangled in a web of constant excuses that will ultimately dismantle everything good in their life. But don’t worry, eventually life will force them to take out the thorn in their eyes causing them not to see.

Stepping into your purpose with a purpose will cause you to see far beyond what you’d expect and see things clearer. Your perspective elevates. You’ll protect your peace more. You’ll become comfortable with saying no and leaving well enough alone. You’ll walk into and embrace what’s for you and not think twice about what’s not. When you step into the favor placed over your life others will see the grace upon & within you. Don’t worry about the time in between it takes others to realize the obvious. Understand they will in due time. Keep your focus. When you become tired of the excuses you’ll know, and you won’t have to worry about your handling of the situation because it will come naturally. When you’ve become tired, it simply means you’ve outgrown a person, place or thing and the situation. It means you value yourself, your time, space, boundaries, beliefs, and peace. The decision to make a change is easy but actions associated to that change are not. The question is how tired are you?

Seeking Validation from Dysfunctional Relationships: How to recognize you’re doing it and how to stop

What is Validation?

Validation is checking or proving the accuracy of something. It is making or declaring something legally or officially acceptable. It is recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings and opinions are valid and worthwhile. Oxford languages.

What are Dysfunctional Relationships?

Dysfunctional relationships are relationships that aren’t functioning well. They are toxic. They serve no clear purpose. They are intimate relationships, social relationships with friends, family, co-workers, significant others, etc. These are relationships that bring out negative emotions which are filled with pain, struggle, and challenges instead of peace, joy, and happiness.

What does it look like?

Consistently seeking validation from people who have rejected you, an apology, someone acknowledging “your right”, praise, feeling accepted, being valued and more. You struggle with brief moments of escape. When things get tough and longing sets in you want to return. You turn back because it’s familiar. Your heart and emotions send impulsive behaviors to your mind for you to act; do something. You reject the new because its unfamiliar. It’s new and you have no experience with it so you’re left in a fearful state. We have a solution. Connect today.