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  • Conscious vs Subconscious

    Conscious Mind vs Subconscious Mind

    💭 Do you believe a “thought” comes before a “feeling”?

    As I think about it I believe we are wired to think a certain way based off how something has made us feel. So feeling before thought for me.

    Therefore as science states our subconscious mind is our powerhouse. It stores and processes information received in various ways than our conscious mind does. It holds those past experiences, memories and stores them and when something vaguely familiar happens in our present our subconscious mind takes us back to something from the past brining the memory to our conscious mind making us aware.

    This is the problem so many of us have because we want to associate the present to the past which keeps us stuck in a state of constant battle.

    This is what it means to be “stuck”.

    I truly feel our subconscious mind keeps us bound beyond our own ability to comprehend. It stores the trauma we’ve endured, the pain, the suffering, the fear, the negative emotions for which we haven’t dealt with because of our determination to push forward without addressing what’s happened to us.

    Become aware of what your subconscious mind is trying to reveal to you.

  • Everybody is NOT your Friend

    Everybody is NOT your Friend

    📌📬Everybody is NOT your friend.


    I’m a social person. I love people. My employment track record clearly shows this. I’ve worked in customer service, and health care and became a community engagement rep to serve my community.


    However, it has occurred to me that I have NEVER been that girl with a huge circle. I don’t let many into my personal space. Why? This protects my sanity and peace.


    I have plenty of associates but I only have two people who I call an absolute friend. I’ve also made a few of my blood sisters my go-to girls. So when I think about it I have been unconsciously aware until someone brings it up or I am sitting in my thoughts.


    Well, today I was sitting in my thoughts. I don’t have to worry about the negativity, the stress, and the chaos of having so many people around me who I think are my friends when they really aren’t. I find women to be “messy” and therefore I do not put myself in a position to have to check anyone because I WILL. I eliminate the drama before it has a chance to come my way.


    So when I look at females who have “clicks” or ” BFF groups” I just silently say to myself, I pray for your strength and sanity because there will always be one person in that group who doesn’t want you to prosper more than them, low-key isn’t happy for your success and or achievements, want what you have and contemplating how to get it, backstab you or manipulate a situation and negatively influence you.


    The point: 👉 make sure you KNOW who you surround yourself with. When you get to a point where things are bleak that means you have outgrown your group. It’s ok to surround yourself with new people who will push you beyond where you are right now. Everybody is not your friend. 💯

  • Are you managing your emotions well or are they managing you?

    As a communicator, mentor, and coach I’ve found similarities in situations that have nothing to do with the other leading back to one root cause; emotions.


    I’ve witnessed individuals and couples shift blame, gaslight, and manipulate because they can’t manage their emotions. Situations you find yourself in will change if you manage your emotions vs them managing you.


    Learn to control your emotions by identifying them, sitting in them, and learning your response to them and why they affect you. It’s a simple fix but most people don’t want to take the time to look inward because they are too busy looking at someone else to unload on or blame.


    When you fix you – you fix the problem.

    I used to look out the window, now I look in the mirror. Why? Shifting blame onto other people does nothing but cause more problems because at the end of the day we control the way we react and behave. I have a choice in every situation. The decisions I make is my responsibility and I choose to make them wisely. When I allow myself to explore why something triggers me and identify with what I’m feeling I’m equipped to handle it in a healthy manner and not cause further harm to me or others. Life can be really simple or really hard. The choice is yours. Control your emotions and watch things around you change. I encourage you all to start today managing your emotions.

    Leave me a comment and tell me what steps you’ve taken and what has worked for you.

  • Welcome to 4Seven!

    Hello Overcomers!

    Are you tired of wondering if you’re the only one living a life with day-to-day struggles? Feeling like everyone around you is winning and you’re not? Do you feel ashamed of your past? Is it difficult to overcome the things you’re currently dealing with? Or perhaps you just want someone for once you can relate to who understands what you’re going through?

    Well, I have found a solution to help you. I’ve always enjoyed talking to people. People are my passion and helping them rewards me in more ways than one. I want you to know you’re not alone and having a simple conversation can help more than you know.

    4Seven is my new YouTube channel where I share triumph tales you can relate to. I don’t plan to feed you nonsense. You’re getting the rare but real true Kisha. I hope my experiences will help you gain the insight, inspiration, strength, and encouragement you need to push forward.

    Welcome video (live) this week. Just so you know – the announcement will be made soon. Every week there will be something new and informative. Subscribe, like and share. Together we can make a difference if we’re open, honest, and true to ourselves and each other.

    Subscribe… Subscribe… Subscribe…..

    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtRJAsTND2-H48LzEbmtU_w

  • Road Map to Freedom

    Almost three years ago I came to a place where I desperately needed to find a release. I was drowning and discouraged, and things went wrong every time I turned around.

    One day, alone, in silence, I started thinking and thinking until I found a strategic plan that worked for me. How to release the things I was holding on to that had me confused, unstable, and focusing on the wrong things.

    The road map to freedom. It still helps me when I have an issue that comes up and I have difficulty trying to make sense of it. I go back to the basics and start at the beginning acknowledging there is a problem, accepting my part in it, refocusing my thoughts, and recharging my energy. That’s when I find relief- the courage to release whatever it is before it causes me to stumble or fumble my blessings.

    In your vulnerable and difficult times, I encourage you to try my method. You don’t need outside forces to help you overcome. What I’ve found to be most productive is to quiet the noise around you. You’ll be more likely to arrive at the place you’re intended to be and at the right time.

  • Searching for a Good Book?

    For those of you who love to read who need a few good books to realize the potential inside of you, the power God has given you and the strength you have to change any situation around for the better I encourage you to get these 3 books! 📚

    You will thank me later 👏🏾🙌🏾

    ✅ It’s important to recognize you are carrying around emotional trash preventing you from living a life of peace because of the heaviness you’re carrying everyday. Find out why and what could be hindering you from having successful relationships and friendships. Find out what exactly you need to identify within yourself and why you need to let it go! 😌

    ✅ Being codependent has had you suffering for so long and now it’s time for you to get your life back and come from under the darkest shadows cast upon you from other people! Rise up and fly!🪽

    ✅ The shadow book will help you take an extensive inventory of yourself. Learning about you and your flaws and faults are never easy but it’s worth it! Having to rehash the past can be taunting but beneficial for processing, perspective and healing. Get to know all of you. Learn how to move beyond what’s already held you captive for so long! 🪤 ⛓️

  • Don’t let them keep controlling you…

    Ladies & Gentlemen

    Listen up☝️…..🗣

    Someone has hurt you, caused you heartache and headache after headache, used you, abused you, called you names, perhaps drugged your name through the mud, made you doubt yourself, feel insecure, lowered your self-esteem, bruised your ego, humiliated you, a victim of gaslighting, and been under the control of a narcissist.

    Rise above it!! Take your life back. You are in control. No one can do anything to you if you do not allow it. The #1 thing you need to focus on right NOW is overcoming their grip on you emotionally and mentally.

    What someone does to you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them. The sooner you realize nothing you could have said, did, or didn’t do played no part in a person choosing to do something. Anything a person does that causes hurt and pain to someone is because they are broken, unstable, and hurting inside. The best advice I could give you is to pray for them, pray God releases you mentally, emotionally, and physically from that situation, and have the courage to walk forward with boldness for what God has in store for you. When you do this, surrendering it all to God, and not giving attention to it or them you will have a peace unlike anything you’ve ever imagined!!

    Peace be with you. It’s time to take your peace back!!!

  • Heaven: How many of you want to see it?

  • The Rules of Engagement: A Woman’s Influence

    The Rules of Engagement: A Woman’s Influence

    An interesting topic that came up this morning in my Overcome & Grow fb group.

    Ladies what you present to your man in the beginning you need to be able to maintain. If you are showing a man in the beginning someone other than who you are, chances are you will have problems in the future. Why? Because you falsified yourself and perpetrated a fraud.

    The thought “I’ve got him now so I don’t have to continue doing those things or being sexy” is a total mess and misconception. That’s the wrong thought to have. Men are organically stimulated by visual stimuli. What he is drawn to visually is what he is attracted to and falls in love with. Sorry, but it’s the truth. Don’t underestimate him though. He understands your body will change over time, and your looks will change as you get older but what should remain the same is your outward appearance. How you maintain yourself. How you present yourself. How you are willing to be extra for him. How you enjoy being proactive about your health, etc. Sometimes it’s ok to let him be involved in your choice of dress. For the mature ladies, you’ll understand what I mean by that statement.

    Any woman who wants to know how to be an influence, learn how to function in a relationship, and learn what motivates, encourages, uplifts, and the genetic DNA of a MAN, as it relates to dating, relationships, and marriages, should grab a copy of Tony & Sheri Gaskins’ book A Woman’s Influence. It literally changed my perspective on a lot of things. And MEN THIS IS FOR YOU TOO, grab a book to learn how you can function well in relationships and marriages with a woman. Oh and did I mention if you’re not a reader it’s on audible! All you have to do is push a button and it will read itself to you! No excuses.

  • A Weekend to Remember!

    🗣👉 IT ONLY TAKES 5 MINS TO VIEW THE VIDEO!

    Singles contemplating marriage and married couples this is for you!

    Today’s Topic is: Marriage

    Are you contemplating marriage?

    Are you on the brink of divorce?

    Are you praying for a supernatural intervention (for direction, clarity, confirmation)?

    If you answered yes to any one of these questions take 5 mins of your time and view the video below.

    A WEEKEND TO REMEMBER!