The secret to sustaining relationships are through honesty, quality time and communication. The bells and whistles such as love, compassion, empathy, respect, connectedness, friendship, openness, free to express oneself, accountability, responsibility, providing, professing, protection, etc. all comes when individuals master the core values that makes the foundation strong and sustainable. It sounds easy but many couples are not mastering the concept. Therefore, infidelity, feelings of inadequacies, lies, heartbreak, abuse, break up to make up and do it all over again, and divorce happens.

I encourage couples to write a list of the struggles within their relationship. Talk about them. If they are pressure points and you believe if improved your relationship would improve don’t be afraid to get the help your relationship deserves. Coaching helps to lighten the load, clear the air, provide guidance by giving advice and exercises to help couples acknowledge and understand why they fell in love to begin with. Love is not lost unless you genuinely do not want to put in the effort. If we could clone a person to be just as we are we would live in a perfect world but unfortunately, we do not live in such a place. Accepting each others differences rather than seeing them as flaws, deal breakers and thorns in your side is how you master sustainable relationships and marriages.